#1 March 9th, 2006 10:35 AM

cora

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question to all male members from cora!

i would like to know, what you would say/think,
[color="Black"]if your girlfriend or wife [/color](if she knew nothing about your membership) [color="black"]took some nude pics of herself without informing you[/color] and one day you surprisingly find [color="black"]a well known face on ISM[/color] by chance...

...would you be [color="black"]proud[/color] about this (and why)
or would you be [color="black"]embarrassed by her step[/color] (and why)?

after all, everybody could see your love then!

wantingscott

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Re: question to all male members from cora!

interesting question, Cora.

i would LOVE it if Christine took nudes of herself for this site. it would be bully for her (she's a former high school star athlete, and just has that star quality in her smile) and SCSI wouldn't mind either, i'm sure

problem is, i'm the exhibitionistic one. many, MANY times Christine has asked me "I'm not going to find naked pictures of you on the internet, am I?"

honestly, i would like it for the simple fact that it would give me excellent material for  "alone time".  i like the pics i've taken of her, but if i ever saw shots she had taken of herself, it would be spontaneous orgasm. then again, i like to watch her masturbate, too...

too much information?

cheers,
Scott

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blissed

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I'm not seeing anyone just now but if I was, it would make a really nice birthday present. And one she wouldn't have to buy either, so it's probably only fair that she gives me the £850 she got paid for doing it as well

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dmbhead

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I would be thrilled!  I've actually tried to talk her into it but she doesn't feel comfortable doing it.  She loves this site and jumps on with me whenever we're together, but doesn't feel she should put herself out there because of her career. I can understand to some extent, she is an attorney and the backlash would ruin her career if one of her pervy coworkers saw her.  She's okay w/ artistic verging on pornographic, even with me behind the camera for our own little collection. I even have a few 20x30" prints of her hanging on the walls, but nothing too revealing -  more figure studies.

As for what seems like a situation for you, your man should be proud!!!  If he really feels this site gives women a chance to break sterotypes the majority of this world creates, all while giving them confidence and a healthy outlet to become free/ artist/ voyeur/ exibitionist/ what have you - he should be proud of you - no questions asked!

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JesterDemonic

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Now there's a brain-f*#k to ponder over . . .

Be the supportive b/f I claim to be and be thrilled she's found a passion, or be my usual jealous self and pout like a lil' sissy. Gee, tough one.

Although I am single at the moment, I would have to say support her and be up and honest about ISM. I've loved ISM.com since I first found it and the first "pornographic"/artistic website I've ever felt was worthy of my financial support.

From experience, jealousy has been the all time downer/killer of all my relationships. The fear of losing my love to some other guy (or girl) isn't my all time favorite idea (ask any Aries). I'm too old for that stuff now. To answer the question - yes, I would get jealous initially, pout like a lil' biatch inside, but eventually accept my gf/wife's choice to shoot herself. Me, in a Duet Shootf? Maybe when I was younger; MySpacers can see for themselves what I mean. But now? Gimme another 6 months in the Gym and I'll let you know.

cynicism

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I think my initial reaction might be jealous ('cause I can be an idiot!), but I'd like to think that I'd be happy afterwards. And I'd offer to help with any reloads!

jackscratch

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Great question, Cora - I'd be really into it. I trust her implicitly and would feel hypcritical if I said no - I'm a total exhibitionist. Of course I'd be lying if I didn't admit a tinge of  jealousy knowing other people would be checking her out, but there's also something erotic about knowing that other people would be getting off on her pics. It's one of those strange, edgy type of emotions. She has an amazing body, is very athletic and would give a run to most of the girls on this site even though she's over 40. Not a chance of it happening though..here's a story. A few months ago we were going at it on the couch, I just happened to have the vidcam handy and told her that we should connect it to the computer so we can watch ourselves on the screen while we made love...just for fun. She was really ambivalent, but agreed, as long as I expressly promised to not to record. Well, while she was giving me the BEST blowjob somehow it all ended up being recorded and she was totally pissed (and it was truly accidental on my part though it was obviously suspect). After watching it one time she confiscated it because she was convinced I was going to put it up on the net...so, it just AIN"T going to happen...no biggy though!

precious

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hey cora - i recently did a shoot for ISM - and my bf doesnt know anything about it. i first came to him with the idea, full of beans i was, and he shot me down - no other man is allowed to look at me but him, no other man can.. ahem.. manipulate himself over me, but him - so why does he have pornos or look at other girls boobs online? arent they someone elses' girlfriend too?

just an interesting point i wanted to make to him - but now i have to keep my photos secret from him, i just hope i remember to delete all the history on this thing before he comes home!

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I WAS planning spending the rest of the day snapping myself with the elastic in my underwear - but your idea is good too

jackscratch

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hey cora - i recently did a shoot for ISM - and my bf doesnt know anything about it. i first came to him with the idea, full of beans i was, and he shot me down - no other man is allowed to look at me but him, no other man can.. ahem.. manipulate himself over me, but him - so why does he have pornos or look at other girls boobs online? arent they someone elses' girlfriend too?

just an interesting point i wanted to make to him - but now i have to keep my photos secret from him, i just hope i remember to delete all the history on this thing before he comes home!

Hey Precious,

Good on ya for taking the risk and not letting yer man control you. You're right on for questioning his logic, not to raise issues but it seems like he's holding a double standard?! I wonder how many other contributors have shot themselves despite resistance from their s/o? Looking forward to your folio...

blissed

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Hi Precious,  I don't know anything about your relationship, but I think he's emotionally involved with you, so knowing the pics are going to be viewed by even a small community,  might trigger in him  a feeling of insecurity, which isn't a nice feeling. You could assure him that it makes no difference to the way you feel about him, and you could ask him out of all the women he's seen naked on the internet, what does he think of them (be nice if you could tell us what his  answer is), I don't feel that good about someone being  hurt by a folio. if he doesn't deserve that. I think to be fair to him it would be much nicer if he eventually knows the pics are here, even if it happens later on. then you can say. Well they've been there for a year and what difference has it made. Then if in your view if he's being selfish by holding a double standard, at least you'll have asserted yourself properly by him knowing. Actually I might be way off here, because I don't know what your relationship is like, it wouldn't be the first time hope you enjoy the experience of having a folio here anyway, look forward to seeing it

gala

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nah, i'm with you precious - you definitely have the right to do what you wish with your body and images  of it.  unless your ideas about monogamy specifically inlcude the virtual world (which isn't all that unfeasible now that we've integrated the virtual with the private so deeply over the last few decades), i don't think you're doing anything wrong to participate in the project.  your erotic goals do not always have to include or please your partner.  i'm sure i'll take some shit for saying that.  but i think the idea that no one else can enjoy your body or your sexuality is possessive and reminiscient of the sort of ownership we associate with a pre-feminist time.  by shooting yourself and putting your image where you want it in a way you have controlled, you are taking back some of that ownership and possessing yourself.  and that's hot!

xo

JesterDemonic

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hey cora - i recently did a shoot for ISM - and my bf doesnt know anything about it. i first came to him with the idea, full of beans i was, and he shot me down - no other man is allowed to look at me but him, no other man can.. ahem.. manipulate himself over me, but him - so why does he have pornos or look at other girls boobs online? arent they someone elses' girlfriend too?

just an interesting point i wanted to make to him - but now i have to keep my photos secret from him, i just hope i remember to delete all the history on this thing before he comes home!

You know, after thinking over your situation, there's a reality your b/f might have to come to grips with: YOU ARE WITH HIM! Have him imagine walking with you through town, and consider how many fellas (or ladies) are thinking about you in next-to/absolutely nothing. If you love each other, everyone else wouldn't matter, would they? From experience, the more you worry about it, the more you're likely to lose what you hold dear.

Something else are the number of "wierdos" with camera-phones and mini-cams taking pics of people unaware. You can use your imagination for that one. You have to wonder every so often, "How many pics of me are out there, doing whatever?" Everyone will eventually have a naughty pic on the net at some point - you just happen to have a head start and more control over the situation.

Just my 2 cents.

dmbhead

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Wow, I just don't think humans are to be controlled like property.  I can understand insecurities and such, but this site is a celebration, not a pornographic industry.  If my girlfriend wanted to start making porn, I wouldn't be happy, probably insecure too, but it still wouldn't be my decision.   My only choice is to accept what she wanted to do, or walk away from her.  Sure relationships are investments in a way. you invest your time, heart, soul, and in some cases - shitloads of money. And I can understand why one might feel betrayed if another wanted to pose nude.  But I for one would be a hell of a lot more worried if my girl was sharing her core soul with another man than if she shared pictures of her body with the world as a whole.

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blissed

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Re: question to all male members from cora!

nah, i'm with you precious - you definitely have the right to do what you wish with your body and images  of it.  unless your ideas about monogamy specifically inlcude the virtual world (which isn't all that unfeasible now that we've integrated the virtual with the private so deeply over the last few decades), i don't think you're doing anything wrong to participate in the project.  your erotic goals do not always have to include or please your partner.  i'm sure i'll take some shit for saying that.  but i think the idea that no one else can enjoy your body or your sexuality is possessive and reminiscient of the sort of ownership we associate with a pre-feminist time.  by shooting yourself and putting your image where you want it in a way you have controlled, you are taking back some of that ownership and possessing yourself.  and that's hot!

xo

I agree with that. My last post was about how to deal with your bf. Assuming he's basically a nice guy who can be talked into accepting that you've done it and that you consider each others feelings, but
Something occurred to me when I read this again.

just an interesting point i wanted to make to him - but now i have to keep my photos secret from him, i just hope i remember to delete all the history on this thing before he comes home!

Quite a few guys hide the porn on their computer from their partners because they fear the consequences, but he doesn't. You know that he sees porn on the net. Yet you seem to fear the consequences of him knowing about your pictures. I know it's easy for me to say, but I think it would be better for the balance of your relationship, if over what ever time frame you choose, whether you gave him a soft or hard landing, you told him the pics are here. Then your asserting yourself properly, you have no fear, the pics arn't a terrible secret, and you don't have to hide any history about them.

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Belgareth

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Re: question to all male members from cora!

i would like to know, what you would say/think,
[color="Black"]if your girlfriend or wife [/color](if she knew nothing about your membership) [color="black"]took some nude pics of herself without informing you[/color] and one day you surprisingly find [color="black"]a well known face on ISM[/color] by chance...

...would you be [color="black"]proud[/color] about this (and why)
or would you be [color="black"]embarrassed by her step[/color] (and why)?

after all, everybody could see your love then!

It's already happened but not with ISM as the site displaying the images. My reactions -
(a) I was slightly surprised that she hadn't said anything to me
(b) Pleased when she said she wanted it to be a surprise
(c) Very proud of her for doing it
(d) Very pleased that others could see her because she is a very beautiful lady

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SCSIgirl

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It's already happened but not with ISM as the site displaying the images. My reactions -
(a) I was slightly surprised that she hadn't said anything to me
(b) Pleased when she said she wanted it to be a surprise
(c) Very proud of her for doing it
(d) Very pleased that others could see her because she is a very beautiful lady

My son's gf has a near nude pic on her page at MySpace.  It's captioned:  "You Like? Sorry.  I belong to 'SCSIson'.  You just get to look."

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blissed

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That's a god idea! I'm gonna have to put a naked pic on mine Actually the people who run myspace do a periodic check for peadiophile activity and what they consider porn, which they call "maitenance". But if her pic disapears one day, she can always just put it back up again.

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maxi

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You boyos are oh so rockin!!!

precious

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cora (and others)
well i havent told him - im too scared quite frankly. and his reasoning about the whole "well what if someone sees you and recognises you" - i told him, well im with you and you get me nude 24/7 PLUS you get to touch - what could be more awesome than that?
he's always complaining about my lack of body image - but honestly, since seeing the photos on here, i turned MYSELF on... hahaha

he's the school of thought "whats mine is mine" and i think most people on this site are more libera minded than others. one day i'll show him - one day, like what was said before - a year down the track, ill say, baby, look im on here, yes my cha-cha is up there for all to see - but at the end of the day, who gets to look at it all the time?

each time i come on this site, i get more and more liberated - and i want to thank everyone too for their replies to my previous post - gives me hope that one day he can accept my nudity and wanting to show it to others.

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I WAS planning spending the rest of the day snapping myself with the elastic in my underwear - but your idea is good too

cora

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@ precious and all:

i for my part informed my love about taking and sending pics - he is proud; so it depends on the situation. i (we) for example love practicing nudism and stuff and i am not shy, if s.b. is looking - never mind, it is a compliment!

i don't think that anybody would ever recognize me due to my folio, `cause first of all not everybody knows this site and second, if s.b. does not expect seeing me running through the street - he/she will never recognize me.

i am glad, that there are enough people round the world, who don't think, that nudity is as dangerous as weapons or stuff are (`cause this seems coming to many peoples' minds more and more - thanks god here in europe not often compared to usa)!

kiss, cora

maxi

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You girlies are also oh so rockin!!!

dmbhead

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- thanks god here in europe not often compared to usa)!

kiss, cora

What do you mean by this?

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blissed

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Oh it'll probably have something to do with Bush again. It usually does

blissed

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It's all his fault. He started it all.

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maxi

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Is that .... is that you Blissed?